Photo by Aleksandra Jankovic via Stocksy. Too much of a good thing—and a deficiency of lube—can have powerfully damaging effects. Just ask any bro who's ever suffered from death grip as a result of too much vice-like masturbating and is unable to come through regular sex.
But if you are part of the reported majority who has never had an orgasm from vaginal stimulation, then read on. Either way, I want you to know that not only are vaginal orgasms achievable, orgasmic energy involving your whole body that will blow your mind is achievable. The trouble is that generally speaking our first sexual encounters in this culture are modeled after the mechanical paradigm of sexual intercourse, where energy is not even on the radar, and the goal of putting the penis in the vagina to have a climax is rushed into with fervor.
Should I cut back on the buzz? I called up my go-to sex and vulva experts to help answer this very important question: Could too much quality time with vibrators actually desensitize my clit or mess with any other part of my vagina? But this is stigma, not science, speaking.
The clitoris is having a moment. People are finally recognizing that it's the epicenter of many vulva owners' sex lives, and research is shining light on its large and complex structure. Yet many myths about the clitoris remain. To give you a primer, the clitoris is the little bud that sticks out at the top of your vulva — but it's also much more, with a whole internal structure hugging the vaginal canal.
Vaginismus is an unconscious spasming of the pelvic floor muscles that surround the opening of the vagina. It happens even when you are engaging in what you would consider to be consensual, pleasurable penetration of the vagina, and feels like a strong ring or wall at the opening. Vaginismus happens for a variety of reasons.
Vaginismus is defined as recurrent or persistent involuntary spasm of the musculature of the outer third of the vagina, which interferes with coitus and causes distress and interpersonal difficulty. In this report, we describe the successful treatment of vaginismus in a year-old lady based on a model proposed by Keith Hawton. The eclectic approach involved education, graded insertion of fingers, Kegel's exercises and usage of local anesthesia with vaginal containment along with the prescription of Escitalopram.
Nor does it make you less of a woman. It does, however, reflect the state of your relationship with your womanhood. Nevertheless, 90 percent of women say they experience orgasm through sexual stimulation, but rarely do so through vaginal penetration alone.
You might've heard the term " Dead Vagina Syndrome " thrown around online, or at least heard the idea behind it: that using your vibrator too much will desensitize your vagina. Does this claim have any scientific basis, though? Or is it just another myth to freak people out about masturbation?
I really love my Magic Wand vibratorbut I've heard rumors about vibrators actually desensitizing the clitoris, and now I'm worried that I'm ruining my chances of having an orgasm with a partner. In fact, whenever I go back to using my hands, it takes SO long to get there. Should I stop using my vibrator?